How to stop time. Cum să oprești timpul

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„Tom Hazard has a dangerous secret. He may look like and ordinary 41-year-old, but owing to a rare condition, he’s been alive for centuries. From Elizabethan England to Jazz-Age Paris, from New York to the South Seas, Tom has seen a lot, and now craves an ordinary life. […] The only thing Tom must not do is fall in love.”

Aceasta e o parte din descrierea cărții de pe una dintre coperțile interioare și rezumă destul de bine subiectul cărții scrise de Matt Haig. Tom Hazard arată de 40 de ani, însă e în viață de 4 secole. La momentul prezent al cărții, Tom e în Marea Britanie și lucrează ca profesor de istorie, povestind elevilor și fapte trăite chiar la fața locului. He’s freaking 400 years old! Continuă lectura „How to stop time. Cum să oprești timpul”

A Boy Called Christmas

„An impossibility is just a possiblity you don’t yet understand.”

Pe Matt Haig l-am descoperit în 2015 când mă uitam online după cărți noi de citit. Faptul că am achiziționat „Reasons to stay alive” (review AICI) a fost o alegere oarbă pentru că nu știam în ce măsură va fi pe placul meu. S-a dovedit o alegere mai mult decât inspirată și e o carte pe care o recomand oricui e interesat de felul în care simte și se comportă cineva cu anxietate și depresie. Însă, nu te lăsa influențat de aerul aparent negativ al acelor declarații pentru că vei avea parte de o bună doză de optimism realist, speranță și inspirație în aceeași măsură.

De atunci am zis că musai trebuie să bifez și restul cărților pe care l-a scris precum „The Humans” și „The Radleys” însă cumva nu le-a venit rândul printre alte cărți din lista de „to be read”. La final de 2015 a lansat cartea pentru copii (și adulți în aceeași măsură) „A boy called Christmas”, iar la finalul lui 2016 „The girl who saved Christmas”. Așadar, în acest sezon festiv am decis să bifez una dintre aceste cărți ca să intru în atmosfera sărbătorilor, dar și pentru că trecuse prea mult timp de când citisem ceva de Matt Haig. Continuă lectura „A Boy Called Christmas”

Book review: „Reasons to stay alive”

 

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As a psychology graduate I am obviously very interested in psychology related readings. I do enjoy reading certain research articles, but mostly I like reading about personal experiences and how psychology “manifests” outside text books filled with theory. Theory can only give you a frame for a certain subject and therefore information is limited. Only when you read about someone’s experience or when you hear someone speaking about what they are going through or what they have been through, is when you can complete your understanding on a specific matter.

That is why, once I stumbled upon Matt Haig’s “Reasons to stay alive” and found out it is a non-fiction book about his own experience with depression, the book got very tempting and I knew I really had to read it. I have to say it definitely was money well spent. Besides the fact that his writing is very accessible and enjoyable, it is also captivating the way he reveals what he has been through. Without giving away too much, you can also read about the writers’ thoughts, feeling, wishes and how he managed his darker times and also read about personalities who also experienced depression.

Matt Haig does a really great job making you imagine how depression and anxiety work and even more, what actually goes through someone’s head when they experience those challenging problems. This is an aspect I find very important for one reason: in life people may confess problems to us, problems that on a personal level we are not exactly familiar with, so saying “I understand what you are going through” can really backfire because they may reply “How can you understand when you did not experience this?” and this kind of exchange can be damaging in terms of your relationship, especially if you are therapist/counselor. So the best way to show your empathy and make them feel a bit better is by saying “I can only imagine what you are going through”.

The point here being, this book does a really great job at helping you imagine how depression works beyond any text book. And that is why I think it is a really good book and why I recommend you to read it. Because it will truly help you understand several things better and it will be of great help if you are a therapist or if you have someone close going through what the writer went through or if you yourself are experiencing similar feelings and thoughts, the key being that it will eventually get better.

What are your reasons to stay alive?